A woman's position in a relationship is often ridiculed by society, seeing us as the inferior, submissive 'house wife'. Then there's the other side of society that think there's something wrong with women who aren't 'house wife' material, you know uninterested, independent, bold, someone whose priorities and pursuits do not revolve around men.
It's all a bit too controversial in my opinion. You can't please anyone, but you can definitely be pleased with the decisions you make.
It's so important as young girls/women that we do not form our lives and decisions based on the status quo of society, friends or those who are toxic. Most importantly getting into relationships with men that do not value and respect your entire.
There can be a lot of pressures surrounding you. For example, family probing around making consistent comments, or friends all baed up. When I was 18, I wasn't necessarily interested in guys, but then my environment made me conscious of the fact that I was not in a relationship, this however did not make me anymore interested in being in a relationship but made me question whether I was incapable of being 'good enough' or whether my standards were too high...
This leads me to onto saying that your life goes at its own pace for reasons that may initially be unknown but having questioned my worth and standards, the unknown is simply the growth awaiting you. I couldn't have seen the future to come to an understanding that it's simply because I'm young and not ready.
Learning about who you are as a person is no race. Loving who you are is a habit into a lifestyle. Maturity doesn't find you without experiences that urge you to open your eyes. Being in a relationship is not a necessity and waits for you.
A lot of girls yearn for relationships and seeing a lot of toxic relationships means we need to build each other up in understanding that we are the directors of everything in our lives, and there's nothing wrong in standing on our own, or being in a relationship. It's a privilege to be ready, not rushed, and having confidence in your self, entirely whole.
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