Therapy & I

Therapy is not solely for the troubled mind. It is for the healthy mind.

I had my first proper therapy session this year. What can I say after attending?




I feel lighter and understand who I am outside of my head.


It is difficult to navigate how we feel, what to say, when to react, whether something is worthy of certain thoughts. Especially on our own.

I decided to give therapy a go because I needed to release my thoughts in a safe environment with someone who knows how to respond. I didn't want to wait to go with the NHS where you can get it for free, so I simply searched for qualified therapists in my borough on google and paid for private therapy. I made a call to them directly after work one day and booked my first appointment. The journey began...

The first session was an assessment and some paperwork  so your therapist can have the necessary information and context they need to work effectively. The first proper session was in short, stiff and confusing. This was because I couldn't even articulate how I felt in a simple way and wanted to be understood clearly. I gathered quickly through communication with my therapist that being understood is not the essence of the session, but to express and let them do their job to help you clarify your thoughts. It eased up and gets comfortable the more you go and then it's light work. Worksheets were provided, weekly tasks that I did or did not do were given.

Luckily my therapist was the perfect match first time, and if they weren't i'd simply let them know it's not working and search again.

What reason did I go for?

I needed three things in my life to change:
Low mood
Inconsistency regarding everything (which is unlike myself)
Relationships

I got everything I wanted and more. The biggest surprise for myself was how everything was more or less linked to childhood trauma that I never had the opportunity to discuss especially after the passing of my mum. I didn't even realise how traumatic life had been until I said it out loud and realised that nothing experienced was healthy or normal.

When you understand yourself, you treat not just yourself better but have the ability to treat others well too. You can make better decisions and have clearer thought processes. It is a journey that you are in control of and can even continue when you reach your goals.