DISAPPOINTMENT - Relationship my mind

 Just before I moved abroad in March, I went through a lot of disappointment.

I've been disappointed many times before and so I manage my expectations. This time the disappointment felt heavier than usual. I came to accept that no matter how well expectations are managed, I am human. I am allowed to feel disappointed, just not forever...not for long.

Disappointment can be rooted in anything...jobs, relationships, finances, family dynamics...

It can bring about feelings of sadness, anger and despair, amongst other feelings that have a negative impact on your mental health.

The first thing I think about when it comes to disappointment is what kind of expectations did I set up? 

Were they too high, too small, realistic or idealistic? I read once before that we shouldn't set any expectations for anyone and this is the way to live a better life. I disagree, not willingly but because experience has taught me that having bare minimum expectations allows you to create a standard of what you tolerate in life. What is the point of having those you love around you but never expecting them to show up in one way or another? Of course you can't control anyone, but knowing where you stand in relationships and situations is important to navigate how you then deal with life. It's no easy thing, but it can work.

Advice

-Come back to the disappointing situation when you are calm!

-Evaluate your expectations...do they need to be altered?

-Identify if it something beyond your control.

-Communicate